So I was reading my sister's blog. I miss her so much.....yes, I'm crying right now! Does that mean I'm sensitive? I feel like I get left in the dust sometimes. My job is to be out making a living. That's my job. I go and dutifully "bring home the bacon", and I miss everything. That means one of two things or a combination of the two. I feel the sorrow and longing that comes from missing those special moments in the life of my young little family, and I get in trouble for not knowing what is really going on and "just making things harder" by trying to insert myself into the family life when I come home from bringing home the afore-mentioned bacon. Yeah, I can see the knot growing in the manly stomachs reading this right now; and I hear your unspoken words. "What is he doing?!?! Nobody was supposed to talk about that!" or maybe "I would have never said it, I'm sure glad someone got it out in the open."
Ladies, I'm sorry for this sudden window into the fatherly male mind. You have your own deep struggles.(We do appreciate them. We just have no idea how to help you with them. It just keeps changing.......constantly!!) Men have struggles too. Oh yeah, those meat-headed guys that seemingly should have no problems. "All they have to do is leave us ladies with all the responsibility of house and home and raising children, go to their "work", come home late and collapse on the couch. Do they have any idea how hard it was while they were gone? Do they even begin to comprehend the stress I've been under all day?" No. We do not understand it all. I think I can safely speak for all of us. But we do appreciate it. God bless you!! That's why we married you. That's why we love you. You are amazing!! Can I get an "AMEN"? Can I get a "HALLELUJAH"?!?!
I feel like I'm left in the dust. Ferdinand learned to read 2 new words today. Flitterwallet is swinging all by himself in the big rope swing and goes potty all by himself. Fancy Pants can crawl across the room and he cut a new tooth today. Who knows whether I will see his first step or not. Now what do I do? Everything happened while I was gone. The only thing I have to offer is bacon. Bacon seems a poor payment for everything that happened while I was gone. Reading my sister's blog brought that to the front of my mind. Some of the crazy things that happen at her house with her 3 kids and the things that happen at my house with my 3 kids are quite simply priceless. What I would give too see them or be a part of them!! I never will. They are already gone....
It's hard to miss it all and read about it later on an Internet blog. I miss my mother and my father and my sister and her husband and precious children and my brother and his lovely new bride and my wife and my own 3 beautiful treasures. It's hard to miss it all. Keep blogging ladies. It's good to read about it. You are doing a great job.
~King Arthur~
4 comments:
Good LORD, Make us all cry why don't you !!! It makes you feel any better I LOVE bacon:-D
Geesh...now I'm all teary eyed and all I have is bacon and no little "F"s running around. You have just described exactly why I will stand up against my co-workers and future mother-in-law to insist that I stay home with my future babies.
And, if it makes you feel better, I remember Mom saying that she was always jealous of how happy we would be when Dad came home at night. She just felt like the one hanging around all day spanking us and he was the cool one that played with us at night. So I guess it goes both ways.
As I said to your lovely wife, your labour is not in vain. I think that scripture is just as appropriate in this case as is hers. While it is very sad to miss out on some of these milestones, remember that like the shepherd with his sheep (John 10:11), you guard your family and would give your life for them (even at the sacrifice of missing those shining moments).
I will tell you this, my dad (whom I love and have the utmost respect for) had a job that required him to work 12 hour shifts and it was few and far between the times that we were able to spend "quality time" with him, however, it was a sacrifice that he made to allow my mother to stay at home and be the keeper that the Lord required her to be. And he has been blessed now to see the shining moments (that he may have missed with us) in his grandchildren. Who love and adore him as much as we (his children) do. Your boys are also going to learn (through your example) how to be the providers for their families and the Lord will bless them as well for your efforts.
The struggles you have are real! They should not be watered down by the struggles wives/mothers have. One is not more real than the other. But just remember you are doing what the Lord commanded you to do and He will provide blessings.
We love you guys, and pray for you often!
Kelly and Jim
Ummm , Bekah , you can share your bacon:-D
Jason , You are such a man make it aallllllll about you why don't ya?!?!!? Just kidding , we love you and it is truely appriciated all that you do ... my hubbie too :-)
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